It takes a lot to make me vent, but I am at my wits end at some of the young people in the church.
One of my greatest concerns is with our young return missionaries and their dating choices. In the past year I have seen at least three return missionaries dating sisters who have more than one set of earrings in their ears.
I am at a loss. I had the high councilor over the young single adult unit in my stake address this and report back to me, but have seen no changes. I instructed him to use the example of the talk given by Elder Bednar entitled ‘Quick to Observe’ (http://lds.org/liahona/2006/12/quick-to-observe?lang=eng).
In summary Elder Bednar said that he knew a returned missionary who was considering marriage. The relationship however was developing during the time that President Hinckley counseled the sisters of the Church to wear only one earring in each ear. It has always been important for the priesthood to counsel the sisters in their manner of dress. As a stake president I take this responsibility very seriously.
The young man waited patiently for the young woman to remove her extra earrings, but she did not take them out! This was a valuable piece of information for this young man, and he felt unsettled about her nonresponsiveness to a prophet’s pleading. He ultimately stopped dating the young woman, because he was looking for an eternal companion who had the courage to promptly and quietly obey the counsel of the prophet in all things and at all times. The young man was quick to observe that the young woman was not quick to observe.
Sometimes I wonder whether the young men coming home from their missions are unaware of this prophetic counsel. Do they not consider it important to have an eternal companion who quietly obeys the priesthood in all things?
If any readers (including sisters) have suggestions on how to get the young men to stop dating those who blatantly disobey the Lords counsel I would very much appreciate your comments.
Sorry again for the vent. I suppose that even us stake presidents are human.